These days I keep getting SO many chances to learn how to quickly forgive myself without getting stuck in judgments. It seems that every time I turn around there’s something I’m ‘goofing’ up. When this started happening, at first I resisted it, judging myself harshly thinking about what other people surely must be saying about me, but as they kept coming rapid-fire I soon saw the bigger picture of learning behind the backdrop of what seemed to be a long list of innocuous ‘goofs.’ Trust me, no one is going to die from any of them – we aren’t performing brain surgery here! Many years ago I could have gone into the ditch over the sheer volume of them!
For a long time I’ve known that the best way to handle a goof is to address it quickly. Take action on it, and go into the fear, not away from it.
This weekend, after ‘goofing’ with a client’s voice mail message (this is why Brandie handles all my appointment setting), I then goofed again with the SAME client. I thought to myself, GEEZ! LOUISE! What now? I took action, owned up to the goof, then quickly offered a solution. We arrived at a new agreement in 5 seconds, and then took off on an amazing healing adventure!
It turns out that she and I were almost identical mirrors in the “hard work” area…often working TOO MUCH and playing TOO LITTLE. And did I say being TOO SERIOUS. Surely these goofs brought in levity because I finally had to laugh at how ridiculous it really is to beat ourselves up over being just what we are – human! (Yes, we need to have standards and do our best, but even so we are going to have goofs).
I guess I’ll never know why the goofs come… but as long as I keep saying THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING everything seems to be good – yes, and that includes the goofs. I can *almost* even laugh immediately at them – now that’s progress!