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When I was a little girl, I would meet people and be very confused by what I saw inside of them compared to what they acted like in person. As I grew older, I began to learn how to use these two visions, but it wasn’t until I was in my 30s that I began to be able to fully see people as they are in the current moment. For years, I would insist that the true person was what I could see inside, and I would insist that the person become that. I literally could not give up on the person. This helped me easily forgive the ‘humanness’ I experienced with people and step over the bumbles and junk.
It wasn’t until my late 20s when I gave up on my ex-husband becoming what I saw inside of him that I began to relate and identify with this ‘other side.’ In fact, I used to be an HR manager, and I would hire people’s potential to the upset of my employers who could not see what I saw, and likewise, some of the employees could not see the ‘good’ I saw in the employers… the story I had told them of why the place was such a wonderful work place!
This ‘gap’ drove me to want to ‘see’ this other side, and the more I spent time seeing what wasn’t true in others, the more preoccupied I became with it. I wondered, “How do these people not see themselves?” and “How can I help them see what they can’t see?” I became obsessed with the idea of closing the ‘gap.’
I encountered people who judged others harshly. I felt sick in the pit of my stomach as some held themselves as better than others and judged others as ‘less than’ and called people names like ‘loser.’ I wondered how people could look at a person and dismiss the wholeness of the person by judging the actions of who the person was in this moment. I began to realize people do this all the time! Aaaack! Yuck!
Today, I realize that the answer lies inside the gap. When I love the person as they are today, I am accepting who they are becoming. And, when I illuminate the truth inside, I can energize what they already know at a soul level. In this, I am not energizing the lie of the ego, but I am not building up resistance to it, either. I am simply accepting it and guiding them toward higher ground. But, the true gift is in reflecting the truth of what the person is already.
We each can do this for another. When you look at a person, do you see the greatness within them? Or do you focus on the flaws on the surface? With your children, do you energize the wonder inside? Or do you focus on what is lacking?
What we do to another person, we do to ourselves. That is the gift of oneness. And, it cuts both ways…
We are always in the process of becoming what we already are.
“If I accept you as you are, I will make you worse;
however, if I treat you as though you are what you are capable of becoming,
I help you become that.”
- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Looking for a Dream Life:
For those of you wondering WHERE I have been (thanks for your emails – I’m doing fine, really!), I invite you to listen to last week’s Queen of Dreams Radio show. I’ve had an interesting few weeks of upgrading energetically to a new way of being. Absolutely everything had to go that was not true. I literally have been sick from trying to do things the forceful way!
If you are sensitive, most likely you are also experiencing dramatic shifts. I hope my show will assist you as you flow into a greater Presence and all that you truly are.
Love,
Tina
