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A few months ago, I went to see Ellany, my friend and gal pal, because we planned to go get ‘makeovers.’
I can’t remember the specifics of how the comment came up when Ellany said, “I see you. When you have your make-up on, and are dressed in your girly shoes and dresses, I know that’s you. It’s SO you.”
There’s something about your truth that grabs you in the throat and heart and gut all at the same time. I blinked many times quickly so that I wouldn’t let the tears rushing from my throat to escape. I wondered, ‘Why does this touch me so deeply?’
I thought about that moment many times in the following weeks, wondering what it was that she could see and others haven’t. It reminded me of something Sonia Choquette said in one of the workshops I attended with her many years ago…I see you is the highest form of love. The truth is…I felt loved in that moment…to the depths of my soul.
It’s so easy for us to ‘see’ people’s flaws, their insecurities, their foibles, their mistakes and, sadly, I believe most people think this IS people’s truth – who they are. I know, FOR SURE, it isn’t. I have not met one person yet who doesn’t have a brimming, brightly-lit soul full of beauty and love. When we focus on people’s ‘ick,’ we energize it. When we focus on their truth, we energize it. What cuts to the negative, can just as easily cut to the positive. To see the love a person is – deep inside…that takes seeing with your heart. Looking with loving eyes.
I remember when I wrote my second book, I had many people telling me that I wasn’t this or wasn’t that. My agent at the time said I was “serious,” not whimsical and child-like like my book. She said my book was too “playful” and wasn’t “serious” enough. At the time, I was struggling to determine exactly who I was. I had been so good at being whatever I needed to be in any moment, the “me” that I am got lost along the way. My agent’s pressing words forced me to look to see what was real – what a gift!
I thought to myself, ‘Well, I can be TOO serious, but my heart, my spirit is playful. This is as “me” as it gets! I am the QUEEN OF POSSIBILITIES!!! It takes a childlike viewpoint of ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE to show up like this!’ I realized, too, that she identified with my business consultant side, which, in our experience together, had been dead serious, because her situation had required it…I showed up in the energy of ‘let’s MOVE’ because that is what the situation called for – dead serious, every moment counts, we must turn this ship around NOW!
The truth is, we all have EVERYTHING inside of us. Every facet, every aspect is waiting for us to express it, as needed. Our ‘expression’ is a blend of those facets we access most often. My entire inner (and outer) life is playing a game. If I shared how many games I have created for myself since I was a little girl, you would see that, to me, life is a big game to play. I make up games to get projects done. I make up games to clean the house. I even teach my inner games to others who just might like to play this way, too. And, just like playing a board game, the gamut of emotions are there too…serious, playful, competitive, concerned and more.
Anyone who knows me knows that I laugh a LOT…and bring a playfulness to serious things such as depression, being stuck, fear and the gamut of other human emotions we encounter along the way. I have lightened up along the way as I have discovered the game isn’t dead-serious. Do I act like I’m at the circus each day? No way – I’m playful, not a clown. One of the things I’m known for is bringing a “you can do this” attitude everywhere I go. However, I can bring a fire starter if people want it. I can bring an edge, too; however, it isn’t my preferred energy. I enjoy being laid-back, on-point and playful. Why do we need to be so SERIOUS all of the time??? Can’t we just do what we love and love the experience, including those we are serving?
That day, in the reflection of Ellany’s eyes and words, I felt that she saw me… my spirit… my truth. And, that is about as good as life gets. Pure magic! Thank you, Ellany!
Tigers…playful and yet dead-serious! 
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We went to see Karate Kid a few days ago. Remember in the original when Mr. Miaggi would say, “Wax on, Wax off”? Well, in the new version, Mr. Han says, “Put on the jacket, drop the jacket, hang up the jacket.” Same point, same result. But it got me to thinking…it’s the same way with trust. My spirit teachers have always said, “The way to grow trust is to trust.” No, that’s not a riddle; it’s just the truth. Just like hang up the jacket, drop the jacket, put on the jacket, Mr. Han is teaching Dre muscle memory… or not to ‘think’ about what he is doing. Same goes for trust. When I get guidance, just act. Just move. Trust … act. The space between these is miniscule. No thinking required. Ah, to trust implicitly! I aspire to! Spirit teachers, mentors…trusting still ultimately comes down to each moment.
One of my cherished mentors, Sonia Choquette, teaches about trusting your vibes. Her newsletter last month had one of the BEST stories of trust. Her newsletter isn’t posted on her site, so I will share a shortened version here. Sonia and her family were traveling to France, and the plane was about to board. Suddenly, she had the feeling to go and check to see if another flight that day was available going to France. This made no sense (as intuition or guidance often doesn’t look logical), but she moved toward the ticket counter straight away. With people all over the place waiting to board and the ticket agent furiously pounding away at the keyboard, Sonia asked the agent to check for another flight. Of course, the agent looked at her like she was crazy. But, true to what she teaches, Sonia stayed with her guidance and gently persisted with her request. The woman complied, and a few minutes later, the pilot showed up and told the agent that the flight had a mechanical and the passengers needed to be rerouted/reticketed – except, that is, for Sonia’s party, which were all booked on the next flight due to Sonia following her vibes. Now, that’s a story worth repeating… and a lesson worth remembering… to trust our vibes.
Trust… it’s a biggie. The only way to grow it is to trust. Don’t think… trust.
