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I’ve had multiple conversations the last several weeks with a friend about how important it is to receive fully from the heart. What I mean by this is to fully allow yourself to take in the gift in the moment, to feel the love, to feel the giving and to receive the gift with an open heart.
This is different than receiving something and thinking about what you have given, what you haven’t given, if you are giving well, right, correctly or what have you.
Becoming a good receiver takes practice. From the time we are tots, we are taught how to give to others, how to say thank you and to acknowledge what we’ve been given, but how many of us have actually been encouraged to take in the gift, snatching every juiciness from the moment? To be celebrated at that level has likely not happened since we were toddlers when everything we did was ADORABLE!
Last week, I went to two different get togethers with two new sets of friends. I showed up at one to see gifts bulging from a booth. I showed up at the other to see gifts lined up on a table. My own hands held none.
The first time it happened, I immediately felt I had missed the boat. It literally had not even occurred to me to bring gifts despite the fact that I ADORE these women and we’ve exchanged gifts for birthdays! Inside, the idea tugged at me for about a minute, and then I knew I had to let it go. I couldn’t sprout a gift.
As it so happens, I was in the middle of wrapping up some huge soul, heart and mind loose ends personally. Before I arrived at the lunch, I had talked to a friend who was the right person at the right time for me to mull over what was going on at the deepest part of who I am. I had actually called her for something, and ended up realizing I needed her to listen to me, to be there for me and to hold space for me to process. In that moment, I felt I had taken something, and there was a part of me that felt bad for imposing myself on her. Then, as we were about to hang up, I thanked her as I felt so much better, and she added, “It’s my pleasure. I’m glad I had an opportunity to do something for you finally.”
The finally helped me see, in that moment, that though I have consciously made an effort to accept people’s offers of help, I rarely reach out to anyone except for a very small band of people close to me. In that moment, I sensed what I’ve known…receiving is every bit as noble as giving. And, being a gracious receiver is a gift in itself.
As I drove over to the lunch, I was lost in my world of realizing a new energy that was here to play. To release into it. Then, I walk in and wham-o, another lesson in becoming a gracious receiver. 
Don’t you love it when the lessons come one after another?
My friends could tell I was grappling with my own concerns and asked, “Would you like to talk about it?” And I received their invitation and shared.
A couple of hours later after three courses, we dived into gifts. “I didn’t bring any,” I said flatly, stating the obvious. Then they chimed in, “And, if you go buy one later, we won’t take it!” The other said, “You brought us gifts last time!” Of course, this I did not remember because last time I had felt inspired to bring them … and, of course, I did not think or expect them to bring me one, either! Why would I impose this crazy thinking onto myself!? LOL
I left without a shred of guilt, shame, regret. I felt loved, seen, acknowledged, adored and full of friendship.
Then, the next day, it happened AGAIN! Buoyed by my experience on Saturday, I swallowed and received graciously and accepted the gifts and put aside my concern of feeling a need to reciprocate. Though I did have the inspiration the night before to create a gift for each of them, apparently, the time wasn’t right since I overslept!
And that reminds me that receiving from others is similar to receiving from spirit…we receive best when our hearts are open, our minds are clear and our bodies are light to move with inspiration.
I’m grateful for these lessons in receiving…thank you! Givers are great at giving and tend to be not so great at receiving. Becoming a gracious receiver allows God to return the love you already are in abundant ways!
Looking for a Dream Life:
A few days ago, I received an email from a friend asking for any advice, information I might have about a serious affliction her friend was dealing with.
According to the MRI, this friend had several discs out of place in her neck and her tendons looked like they were pulled and scratched to high heaven.
I mentioned that this part of the body is the area that will hold anything that we are not attending to related to our “speaking our truth,” “living our truth,” and “being our truth.”
Over the years, I’ve seen countless women (some men, too, but not as many) with gaping energetic holes around their throats. With time, this scratching and clawing will make its appearance on the surface, i.e., the physical.
My friend forwarded the information to her friend and got a response back that said, “I hate my job. I’ve been praying for another door to open.”
Unfortunately, many people are not very good door openers, i.e., receivers. So, God must offer to them what they ask for in the way that they can receive it. If you aren’t a very good receiver, that open door might look like a chicken neck that has been cracked. Or a stint in a major disease.
All of this is UNNECESSARY, and one of the reasons I’m so PASSIONATE about helping people learn to love themselves. The better you are at receiving, the more that God can gift you and deliver to you all that you desire.
Oh, but that also means you are asking, too! Ask and receive… practice it with me… say it aloud… ASK AND RECEIVE – it starts with ME!
I remember when I was beginning to learn this. I was TERRIBLE at receiving. Oh, yes, I was a WORLD CLASS giver, but a HORRIBLE RECEIVER of giving! Every part of my body felt awkward about accepting something without giving something in return. But, I plunged ahead with my spirit teachers urging me on. Now, I can receive gratefully and happily. It is a joy to allow others to give to me realizing that love can be the only thing between us.
What I didn’t know then that I do know now is that giving and receiving is a big circle. You can’t give without receiving and you can’t receive without giving. So, when you think you are receiving without actually giving something in return – think again. You already have! There’s no debt, no scorekeeping, you’ve done it. Your grateful, easy receiving is the gift to the person giving. Be a GRATEFUL receiver and be a gift to someone else’s giving!
Ask… for what you desire, and realize that asking costs you nothing. Be open to receive in whatever way the item arrives! You just never know. I have so many examples of the creativity of God’s messengers. I’ll share more of those later.
For now…enjoy opening the door to receive as an infinite being worthy of all the gifts of the Universe! And, PLEASE, do not judge the way your gifts flow into your open door!
