Live Your Dream Life with Passion and Purpose

You all have been so funny! I love getting your emails about hair (though I have been tardy with responses – I’ve been out and about – best way to contact me if you need a response is through Brandie – she will handle everything!).

So, you’ve been asking about the HAIR! I went to our Goddess Image Consultant, and she is AMAZING. Did I say AMAZING??? Truly. Now I know why people RAVE and LOVE their hairdressers!

I’m nearly 41 (birthday coming up in July), and I have never had a hair stylist like this – so glad I do now! I literally floated out of her place feeling loved, adored and cared for. It felt like we were two friends who had not seen each other in a very long time. We talked non-stop for THREE HOURS!

Anyway, here’s the scoop of what happened. I washed my hair and let it drip dry. My hair is thick and has these spiral curls (the ones I had NO IDEA what to do with after they arrived with Chance’s delivery). I wanted her to see what I’m dealing with, after all. I probably looked like a distant cousin of Cousin IT – nearly one length hair, down to my waist. Very Liz Tyler in Lord of the Rings, but not as glam… a bit frizzy, a bit dry.

She greeted me at the door with such enthusiasm I felt pulled into her orbit. SHE truly IS a GODDESS! Then, I saw her house was painted in the luscious shimmery, Ralph Lauren metallic paints I’ve been drawn toward lately – THAT’S IT – I’m painting my creative room in these, too. Word of warning… she said it took them FIVE coats to get this look – not a weekend warrior type of undertaking, for sure!

I got to see her house and all of the beauty she has created. Happy, happy, happy!

We talked about my hair. We talked about my lifelong hair process… cut my hair, grow it out, cut my hair, grow it out… BOR-ING. I told her that I really don’t want to spend a lot of time on it… I want something that looks great and is LOW MAINTENANCE. By now, I pretty much have acknowledged that fact that I’m not going to turn into Miz Hair High Maintenance.

She reassured me that everything was GOING TO BE FINE! And, I actually BELIEVED her – yeah!

Now, you may not believe this if you go to someone who already does all of this, but she took an hour to teach me about some products, showed me EXACTLY what to do to get my hair to do what I want. And, made everything feel extremely easy. I secretly thought…maybe this IS going to work.

In the past, I would ask about the curls… what to do about the curlzzzzz??? And people would point to a bottle and say, this is good. After our Goddess got finished with me, I knew which products to use, why they WOULD work, and I actually had the CONFIDENCE in using them. Ever spend $20 bucks on something and use it the wrong way?

She cut layers into it, the back is probably six inches shorter. I didn’t have that ‘where’s my hair’ experience in the shower, so that is good. PLUS, she kept reassuring me that I’m GORGEOUS and I CAN wear my hair long and it can be fabulous! This, too, I really believed because I FELT beautiful.

When I left, I felt so great I floated over to get a manicure/pedicure at my local shop. When I walked in, the only customer in the place (it was 3 in the afternoon on a weekday) said, “Wow, you look great!” I smiled KNOWING that it was my aura… truly filled to the brim with love. The same customer commented on my new purse, too, which our Goddess also loved – that’s a whole other story I’ll post about in a couple of days with a photo!

That’s when I started thinking about my experience. Our Goddess lady BELIEVES in all of her heart that true beauty comes from within. That’s exactly what she brings out in others. I’ve never paid $90 for a haircut…but a haircut with her is an EXPERIENCE – one that adds to me in so many other ways. Before, I thought of getting my hair done in terms of function … who can do my hair well, and do it fast (not everyone wants to tackle my mane with highlights!). I never thought to ask for anything else… but I kept floating around, bobbing from place to place, and this last time when I asked, I asked for “the best hair stylist for me.”

God knows what we want and what is best for us beyond what we can even imagine! Let me think about what I would have had to ask for to get this beautiful Goddess to come … Dear God, I’d like to have an ayurveda cooking, inner beauty teaching, master of the physical plane hairdresser who loves women and teaching them to look their best. Oh, and while you are at it, can you include a soul connection and someone who loves organic products who enjoys teaching people to actually use the products?

When people ask me about how to ask… I always say… take the stress (also resistance) off and just ask for what is best for you and be open to how that shows up.

Boy, am I glad I did! I’ll post photos soon… promise! I’ve been doing the french twist thing allowing my hair to recover from how mean I’ve been to it (apparently you aren’t supposed to BRUSH curly hair like this… who knew?) All you curly girls out there – stop laughing!

I do have to say, though, I discovered some pretty limiting beliefs while I was there. Let me share a few…

1. Most hairdressers I’ve gone to fall into two sales camps for products… not selling at all, which just means that they don’t tell you about any products, and selling full force, which means it usually feels akin to a used car salesman. When our Goddess took so much care to ensure I know how to use the products, and told me WHY these are the best (Aveda), and HOW they work with hair rather than against it, I naturally wanted to buy them, AND I didn’t feel like I was being sold something. But, even before I asked her, I knew she wasn’t trying to sell me anything (she doesn’t even carry product). That’s when I realized I have a little belief stuck in the background about having my defenses up around ‘being sold.’ Tsk, tsk… no need for that as there is no need to be defensive when you are courageous, bold and fearless!

2. Because I approached my hair as a functional process, and my entire focus has been on the function parts (cut, highlights, color), I totally missed out on the experience I could have. When I left our Goddess, I flashed back to many previous stylists who talked all about their stuff (boyfriend troubles, girlfriend troubles, gossip, etc.), asked me about what to do about things (think therapy session), and how it wasn’t relaxing at all! I’m sure this experience is in direct alignment with me truly loving me and nurturing me. I love me, the world loves me. We do create our world!

3. One of the things I’ve really been noticing in so many ways is how we each can contribute in our own unique way. Being with our Goddess allowed me to see me…how I can be zany, quiet, fun, introspective, lively, lovely, and everything else in between and how that can be valuable to others. I adore how this woman is such a role model…she has done it all! I realized when I left how I do hold back…I don’t want to be in the spotlight – that’s not good to LOVE soaking up all that love, right? What do our well-intentioned parents say… Be humble, don’t get full of yourself! And, yet, I see that by believing we have something to share (and being willing to be in the spotlight) is the process by which we share ourselves with the world. Now, that one (don’t shine too brightly) has to go!

Oh my gosh… you all are going to totally laugh when you read this. When I blogged about how I secretly wish my hair was like this, but that I wouldn’t ‘do’ this because it would be too much trouble – I went to look for a photo of what my hair looks like now… VOILA! I have hair like this! And those ringlets that Miss Underwood has… mine does that automatically! Ya-hoo! Did I mention that we create our world? The Goddess cut my hair in the way she thought best and it just so happened that what I love… is best! How fun is that?

You all have been so funny! I love getting your emails about hair (though I have been tardy with responses – I’ve been out and about – best way to contact me if you need a response is through Brandie – she will handle everything!).

So, you’ve been asking about the HAIR! I went to our Goddess Image Consultant, and she is AMAZING. Did I say AMAZING??? Truly. Now I know why people RAVE and LOVE their hairdressers!

I’m nearly 41 (birthday coming up in July), and I have never had a hair stylist like this – so glad I do now! I literally floated out of her place feeling loved, adored and cared for. It felt like we were two friends who had not seen each other in a very long time. We talked non-stop for THREE HOURS!

Anyway, here’s the scoop of what happened. I washed my hair and let it drip dry. My hair is thick and has these spiral curls (the ones I had NO IDEA what to do with after they arrived with Chance’s delivery). I wanted her to see what I’m dealing with, after all. I probably looked like a distant cousin of Cousin IT – nearly one length hair, down to my waist. Very Liz Tyler in Lord of the Rings, but not as glam… a bit frizzy, a bit dry.

She greeted me at the door with such enthusiasm I felt pulled into her orbit. SHE truly IS a GODDESS! Then, I saw her house was painted in the luscious shimmery, Ralph Lauren metallic paints I’ve been drawn toward lately – THAT’S IT – I’m painting my creative room in these, too. Word of warning… she said it took them FIVE coats to get this look – not a weekend warrior type of undertaking, for sure!

I got to see her house and all of the beauty she has created. Happy, happy, happy!

We talked about my hair. We talked about my lifelong hair process… cut my hair, grow it out, cut my hair, grow it out… BOR-ING. I told her that I really don’t want to spend a lot of time on it… I want something that looks great and is LOW MAINTENANCE. By now, I pretty much have acknowledged that fact that I’m not going to turn into Miz Hair High Maintenance.

She reassured me that everything was GOING TO BE FINE! And, I actually BELIEVED her – yeah!

Now, you may not believe this if you go to someone who already does all of this, but she took an hour to teach me about some products, showed me EXACTLY what to do to get my hair to do what I want. And, made everything feel extremely easy. I secretly thought…maybe this IS going to work.

In the past, I would ask about the curls… what to do about the curlzzzzz??? And people would point to a bottle and say, this is good. After our Goddess got finished with me, I knew which products to use, why they WOULD work, and I actually had the CONFIDENCE in using them. Ever spend $20 bucks on something and use it the wrong way?

She cut layers into it, the back is probably six inches shorter. I didn’t have that ‘where’s my hair’ experience in the shower, so that is good. PLUS, she kept reassuring me that I’m GORGEOUS and I CAN wear my hair long and it can be fabulous! This, too, I really believed because I FELT beautiful.

When I left, I felt so great I floated over to get a manicure/pedicure at my local shop. When I walked in, the only customer in the place (it was 3 in the afternoon on a weekday) said, “Wow, you look great!” I smiled KNOWING that it was my aura… truly filled to the brim with love. The same customer commented on my new purse, too, which our Goddess also loved – that’s a whole other story I’ll post about in a couple of days with a photo!

That’s when I started thinking about my experience. Our Goddess lady BELIEVES in all of her heart that true beauty comes from within. That’s exactly what she brings out in others. I’ve never paid $90 for a haircut…but a haircut with her is an EXPERIENCE – one that adds to me in so many other ways. Before, I thought of getting my hair done in terms of function … who can do my hair well, and do it fast (not everyone wants to tackle my mane with highlights!). I never thought to ask for anything else… but I kept floating around, bobbing from place to place, and this last time when I asked, I asked for “the best hair stylist for me.”

God knows what we want and what is best for us beyond what we can even imagine! Let me think about what I would have had to ask for to get this beautiful Goddess to come … Dear God, I’d like to have an ayurveda cooking, inner beauty teaching, master of the physical plane hairdresser who loves women and teaching them to look their best. Oh, and while you are at it, can you include a soul connection and someone who loves organic products who enjoys teaching people to actually use the products?

When people ask me about how to ask… I always say… take the stress (also resistance) off and just ask for what is best for you and be open to how that shows up.

Boy, am I glad I did! I’ll post photos soon… promise! I’ve been doing the french twist thing allowing my hair to recover from how mean I’ve been to it (apparently you aren’t supposed to BRUSH curly hair like this… who knew?) All you curly girls out there – stop laughing!

I do have to say, though, I discovered some pretty limiting beliefs while I was there. Let me share a few…

1. Most hairdressers I’ve gone to fall into two sales camps for products… not selling at all, which just means that they don’t tell you about any products, and selling full force, which means it usually feels akin to a used car salesman. When our Goddess took so much care to ensure I know how to use the products, and told me WHY these are the best (Aveda), and HOW they work with hair rather than against it, I naturally wanted to buy them, AND I didn’t feel like I was being sold something. But, even before I asked her, I knew she wasn’t trying to sell me anything (she doesn’t even carry product). That’s when I realized I have a little belief stuck in the background about having my defenses up around ‘being sold.’ Tsk, tsk… no need for that as there is no need to be defensive when you are courageous, bold and fearless!

2. Because I approached my hair as a functional process, and my entire focus has been on the function parts (cut, highlights, color), I totally missed out on the experience I could have. When I left our Goddess, I flashed back to many previous stylists who talked all about their stuff (boyfriend troubles, girlfriend troubles, gossip, etc.), asked me about what to do about things (think therapy session), and how it wasn’t relaxing at all! I’m sure this experience is in direct alignment with me truly loving me and nurturing me. I love me, the world loves me. We do create our world!

3. One of the things I’ve really been noticing in so many ways is how we each can contribute in our own unique way. Being with our Goddess allowed me to see me…how I can be zany, quiet, fun, introspective, lively, lovely, and everything else in between and how that can be valuable to others. I adore how this woman is such a role model…she has done it all! I realized when I left how I do hold back…I don’t want to be in the spotlight – that’s not good to LOVE soaking up all that love, right? What do our well-intentioned parents say… Be humble, don’t get full of yourself! And, yet, I see that by believing we have something to share (and being willing to be in the spotlight) is the process by which we share ourselves with the world. Now, that one (don’t shine too brightly) has to go!

Oh my gosh… you all are going to totally laugh when you read this. When I blogged about how I secretly wish my hair was like this, but that I wouldn’t ‘do’ this because it would be too much trouble – I went to look for a photo of what my hair looks like now… VOILA! I have hair like this! And those ringlets that Miss Underwood has… mine does that automatically! Ya-hoo! Did I mention that we create our world? The Goddess cut my hair in the way she thought best and it just so happened that what I love… is best! How fun is that?